Pain is the Father of Pleasure

Pain is the Father of Pleasure

The point was made by Nietzsche in Twilight of the Idols:

For the Greeks a sexual symbol was therefore the most sacred symbol, the real profundity in the whole of ancient piety. Every single element in the act of procreation, of pregnancy, and of birth aroused the highest and most solemn feelings. In the doctrine of the mysteries, pain is pronounced holy: the pangs of the woman giving birth consecrate all pain; and conversely all becoming and growing — all that guarantees a future — involves pain.

So very true.

You entered the world in an orgy of pain—your mother bleeding on a delivery table, screaming as you left her body. And then your greatest victories—from infancy to adulthood—were forged by adversity: the heartache of unrequited love, the death of a good friend, etc. Your “growing and becoming”…the result of a solemn battle.

You ought to thank God for your pain!!! Without hatred, would you know about love? Without a bloody war, would you understand peace?

Dear reader, your happiness is shaped by the Storm of Adversity. Your pleasure is born in the Fire of Agony.

Pain is the father of pleasure.

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The Difference Between a Great Work of Art and a Bad One

The Difference Between a Great Work of Art and a Bad One

Below we have a great work of art:

What the battle is all about

The painting is great for three reasons:

1.) Anybody can understand the meaning

2.) It exalts a noble cause(s): i.e. the family, military sacrifice, etc.

3.) It blends nature and humanity together in a creative way

By contrast, here we have a bad piece of art:

modern art

The painting is bad for the opposite reasons:

1.) Nobody can understand the meaning

2.) It lacks a noble cause

3.) It fails to blend nature and humanity together in a creative way

Mark Twain once said, “The difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter. ’tis the difference between the lightning bug and the lightning.” In short, the two things have nothing in common. They’re diametrically opposite.

The same is true for great and bad art – the fundamental difference is profound. And learning to spot the difference is crucial. If you can spot a great work of art, your spirit will be sanctified. You’ll have a road map to the noble life. You’ll find a kinship with the heights of human emotion.

But if you put your faith in bad art, you’ll become lost. You’ll be lacking in a Weltanschauung. You’ll be alienated by the trickster. Your soul an empty cup…waiting to receive the poison.

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Relationship Experts are Scamming People by Telling Them to “Just Communicate”

Relationship Experts are Scamming People by Telling Them to “Just Communicate”

Relationships “experts” will often tell couples to “just communicate.” This is the go-to response, the one-size-fits all advice. I’ve heard it thrown around so much that it’s a cliche. I’m thinking of opening a Marriage and Family Counseling practice to cash in on the “just communicate” Gold Rush.

But what does “just communicate” mean? Communication is a general term, signifying many things: verbal, nonverbal, media, etc. So when a person tells you to “just communicate,” it’s a meaningless term. It’s akin to saying “just talk.” Ok, yes…but about what?

Relationship experts have assaulted the internet with ambiguous advice on the subject: a google search is like falling into a relationship rabbit hole:

The University of Florida: Leading the Young People Astray

“Couples must talk about many health-related issues, including nutrition, exercise, illness, disease, accidents, health care, mortality, and death.” – From “9 Important Communication Skills for Every Relationship” by Victor William Harris via the University of Florida

Harris tells us to talk about everything. Ok Vic, but what do you say? Something like mortality, for example, reflects a person’s Weltanschauung. It shows a unique perspective. The person can be a nihilist, a nationalist, a globalist, etc. Which one is correct? Harris never tells us. Instead, we’re instructed to move our lips and let the words fly out. Pointless advice, really.

Harris also implies that men and women communicate the same – a complete falsehood. But what can we expect from the University of Florida? Gender “equality” is the defacto religion at college: you either agree with Der Steinem or it’s off the gallows (AKA, a Women’s Studies class). I assume that Harris did a mandatory sentence, nodding like a simp from the front row in order to carry the cheerleader’s books back to the dorm.

But anybody with descended testes (i.e. not Harris) will tell you that men and women are different. And communication is the hallmark of the difference.  Men talk about sports; women talk about other women. Men talk about politics; women talk about people. And so and on and so forth. It’s common knowledge. But the fact that gender difference is denied by academics is a sign that Cultural Marxism has infected the host body.

Cal State Long Beach: Making Sure You Stay Confused

“The way couples communicate with one another can be a reflection of their personalities, age, backgrounds, and lifestyles. In order to maintain a relationship, couples must be willing to exchange information about themselves and capable of feeling confident, honest, direct, and clear when discussing realities about their past, present, and future.” – “Love & Communication in Relationships” from California State Long Beach’s Health Resource Center

CSULB tells us to be honest about the past. Ok…how about no. Previous relationships (for the most part) should be unspoken about. Don’t they know about the connection between mystery and romance? Apparently not. Too much information will destroy the flower of a love that’s budding. Men don’t want to know about the three-way she had in college. Or how the ex-boyfriend filmed her giving oral and then uploaded it to YouPorn. Some things that are better left unsaid. Communicating about the past is not beneficial to a relationship – it’s only detrimental.

Note: There are some men that like hearing explicit details about the sexual indescretions of their wife. These men are known as cucks. You can find them on YouPorn, filming their wives having sex with the offensive line of the Miami Dolphins. The woman goes along with it, but she (deep down) has a contempt for the beta-male cuckoldry of her husband.


The popular maxim today is “You can’t believe everything you read on the internet.” That’s very true. But they fail to tell you the follow up to that statement – most of the lies are coming from the establishment.


How Walt Disney Taught Us What it Means to Be a Great Man

How Walt Disney Taught Us What it Means to Be a Great Man

As the story goes, Walt Disney was flying over Orlando, Florida in the 1960s. He looked out the window, pointed to an empty piece of land, and said to the person next to him: “Right there. I’ll put DisneyWorld right there!”

A beautiful story…

At the same time, another man was sleeping on the same plane. Still another man was pondering the common details of a day: sending bills, etc. And yet another man was contemplating a boring past, trying to find inspiration. And therein lies the difference between the great man (Walt Disney) and the common man.

Walt Disney was thinking of a future; the common man is thinking of a past. Walt Disney saw that a paradise that was waiting to be built; the common man sees a boring landscape of the ordinary. Walt Disney was driven by a desire to create; the common man is repeating what’s already been done.

Or, to put it plainly…

Some men look out an airplane and see DisneyWorld in an empty field. Other men see an empty field.

Walt Disney taught us how to be great man.

The “Nice” Man is Not a Great Man

The “Nice” Man is Not a Great Man

What does it mean when a man is “nice”? It sounds like a compliment, no? Well it’s actually an insult.

In short, it means that he’s polite; he smiles a lot…he’s not intimidating.

Nice indicates a surface greeting, a casual exchange. It’s equivalent to Southern hospitality. It shows that he’s learned the basic structure of human interaction. It’s like getting an award at school for attendance. You achieve the basic, which is nothing.

My dear readers, always remember this: GREAT MEN ARE NOT NICE.

A friend used to tell me, “When you meet a man, you should feel something pushing back against you. You should feel the energy of resistance.”

Very true!

A great man is defined by his allegiance to lofty ideas, by his desire to pursue a passionate goal. His spirit is a guitar solo by Eddy Van Halen. His energy is red wine, spilling over the cup. He fires a cannon at the island of insecurity. He’s a captain on the ship of confidence.

And the great man’s enemy is the weakling – aka, the “nice” man. The “nice” man surrenders to the challenge, agrees to be ordinary. The “nice” man shuffles into the distance. His spirit is dejected and peevish. His energy is confusion. The best he can do is “nice”…because he has nothing else!

There’s an old cliche…”Nice guys finish last.” But it really means “Weak men are eventually exposed.” They can only hide for so long. Eventually, their dim lighting is replaced by the fires of a great man.

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Reflections on the Death of a Good Friend (Six Years Ago Today)

Reflections on the Death of a Good Friend (Six Years Ago Today)

Six years ago, I lost a dear friend; his name was Dave.

He was 46, divorced, and had no children. His second marriage was on the rocks and he had recently lost his job. Dave was in a bad place, so he went home and overdosed on a combination of Soma and alcohol.

I’ve lost a lot of friends over the years. But for some reason, his death hit me the hardest. Dave had a beautiful laugh, a charming personality. His heart was deeper than the Grand Canyon. And to this day, I can’t believe he’s gone.

A week after he died, I had a dream about him. The phone rang, so I picked it up. He was on the other line, chatting away like normal. I waited for him to pause, but he continued. After a few minutes, I interrupted his story.

“Dave, are you still alive? Brother, tell me you’re still alive!”

The phone began to break up with static.

“I’ve got to go,” he said. “I’ve got to go…”

I woke up immediately. The dream was so real, so vivid. His voice was still ringing in my ear.

That was six years ago.

Male friendship is a sacred bond; it’s the backbone of a great nation. Unfortunately, its downplayed in today’s world. So much of the focus is on male/female dynamics – romantic love being the new altar of worship. What’s lost in this shuffle is the tremendous value of male friendship. The kinship that emerges between a band of brothers. I’m glad I’ve been able to experience it. And I’m glad that the Lord has placed excellent people in my path.

RIP Dave…you are still missed.


Hope is Contingent on One’s Ability to Overcome an Obstacle

Hope is Contingent on One’s Ability to Overcome an Obstacle

I don’t sell hope.

Instead, I provide people with advice on how to overcome obstacles. In addition, I listen to advice from others on how to overcome obstacles.

Let’s me give you two examples:

  • A woman wants to lose weight. She can listen to a self-help guru, telling her  to “just believe in herself.” Or, she can listen a personal trainer that provides a comprehensive fitness plan: a man willing to kick her ass every day with rigorous training. A man willing to push her to greatness, to fight through pain and sweat. The first individual is providing hope; the second is helping her to overcome an obstacle.
  • A man wants to become rich. He can listen to an enthusiastic speaker, telling the audience to “reach for the stars.” Or, he can read from the wisdom of millionaires: i.e. The Millionaire Next Door, The Art of the Deal, etc. Books that take away time from his pleasure-filled weekend. Books that force him to re-examine his wasted life. The first individual is providing hope; the second is helping him overcome an obstacle.

You get the point.

I refuse to be a “hope dealer.” I don’t sell the crack of platitude, the needle of self-help. I don’t peddle the cliche. I’m not here improve my self-esteem by telling pretty lies. I don’t need the Facebook likes or Retweets. I prefer the truth.

I refuse to sell a Pollyanna principle. Rose-colored glasses are too small for my face, too blinding for my vision. I’m not here to misdirect or to obfuscate. I don’t need a book deal, a record contract, or a tenure-track position. I speak the truth.

May the children of tomorrow hear my cry! And may they say one thing alone – he was a man that spoke the truth. He broke the chains in Plato’s cave, he pointed to a naked leader and yelled: “The Emperor wears no clothes!”

What can I say? Nothing more than what Nietzsche already gave us:

“…it is my ambition to say in ten sentences what everyone else says in a book — what everyone else does not say in a book.”

I prefer to help one person than lie to a thousand.