Keep Your Business Dealings Frequent, Brief and Positive

This advice was given to me years ago and I find it to be useful. All the years…and I’ve seen a million faces. So many different jobs and locations. I have to choose my battles. I cannot move a mountain and I cannot change the mind of another man. I have to look within. To focus on myself.

To pick my battles. To know which conversation to have with people…to know when to leave the room.

Knowing when to speak your mind is silver….knowing when to be silent is gold.

The reward for this knowledge is enormous – it’s about my well-being and my sanity. It’s about my peace of mind.

Note to self: Keep your business dealings frequent, brief, and positive.

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Relationship Experts are Scamming People by Telling Them to “Just Communicate”

Relationships “experts” will often tell couples to “just communicate.” This is the go-to response, the one-size-fits all advice. I’ve heard it thrown around so much that it’s a cliche. I’m thinking of opening a Marriage and Family Counseling practice to cash in on the “just communicate” Gold Rush.

But what does “just communicate” mean? Communication is a general term, signifying many things: verbal, nonverbal, media, etc. So when a person tells you to “just communicate,” it’s a meaningless term. It’s akin to saying “just talk.” Ok, yes…but about what?

Relationship experts have assaulted the internet with ambiguous advice on the subject: a google search is like falling into a relationship rabbit hole:

The University of Florida: Leading the Young People Astray

“Couples must talk about many health-related issues, including nutrition, exercise, illness, disease, accidents, health care, mortality, and death.” – From “9 Important Communication Skills for Every Relationship” by Victor William Harris via the University of Florida

Harris tells us to talk about everything. Ok Vic, but what do you say? Something like mortality, for example, reflects a person’s Weltanschauung. It shows a unique perspective. The person can be a nihilist, a nationalist, a globalist, etc. Which one is correct? Harris never tells us. Instead, we’re instructed to move our lips and let the words fly out. Pointless advice, really.

Harris also implies that men and women communicate the same – a complete falsehood. But what can we expect from the University of Florida? Gender “equality” is the defacto religion at college: you either agree with Der Steinem or it’s off the gallows (AKA, a Women’s Studies class). I assume that Harris did a mandatory sentence, nodding like a simp from the front row in order to carry the cheerleader’s books back to the dorm.

But anybody with descended testes (i.e. not Harris) will tell you that men and women are different. And communication is the hallmark of the difference.  Men talk about sports; women talk about other women. Men talk about politics; women talk about people. And so and on and so forth. It’s common knowledge. But the fact that gender difference is denied by academics is a sign that Cultural Marxism has infected the host body.

Cal State Long Beach: Making Sure You Stay Confused

“The way couples communicate with one another can be a reflection of their personalities, age, backgrounds, and lifestyles. In order to maintain a relationship, couples must be willing to exchange information about themselves and capable of feeling confident, honest, direct, and clear when discussing realities about their past, present, and future.” – “Love & Communication in Relationships” from California State Long Beach’s Health Resource Center

CSULB tells us to be honest about the past. Ok…how about no. Previous relationships (for the most part) should be unspoken about. Don’t they know about the connection between mystery and romance? Apparently not. Too much information will destroy the flower of a love that’s budding. Men don’t want to know about the three-way she had in college. Or how the ex-boyfriend filmed her giving oral and then uploaded it to YouPorn. Some things that are better left unsaid. Communicating about the past is not beneficial to a relationship – it’s only detrimental.

Note: There are some men that like hearing explicit details about the sexual indescretions of their wife. These men are known as cucks. You can find them on YouPorn, filming their wives having sex with the offensive line of the Miami Dolphins. The woman goes along with it, but she (deep down) has a contempt for the beta-male cuckoldry of her husband.

Conclusion

The popular maxim today is “You can’t believe everything you read on the internet.” That’s very true. But they fail to tell you the follow up to that statement – most of the lies are coming from the establishment.

 

What’s the Worst Part of Being a Drug Addict?

I bumped into an old acquaintance a few nights ago. I knew him when I was a teenager, a time that both of us were taking drugs: acid, marijuana, etc. Fast forward twenty-five years…what changes have occurred?

For me, the experimentation was a stage: a period of self-discovery. Eventually, I had a bad acid trip and gave it up. The weed lasted for a few years as well. Again…I eventually got tired of it. I grew up, got a college degree, traveled the world, developed my talents, married my wife, and had a child.

My acquaintance?

Still smoking pot every day,…still taking acid. At 45, he was never married or had children. And deep down, he’s basically a cool guy. But that’s beside the point – what kind of women wants to marry a druggie? If he does find a woman, will he want her? (she’ll have an addiction as well). It’s hard enough to find someone that you “click” with; but when you mix drugs into the equation, then it becomes impossible.

When I was growing up in the 1980’s, there was a popular commercial on television—say nope to dope and ugh to drugs. They said that narcotics would kill you. But when you grew up, you saw older drug addicts and you realized that the commercial was false; the warnings were a lie. You can take drugs and live (see Keith Richards).

There was a more convincing argument – one that was never made.

Drugs will destroy your sexual market value.

If you’re a 10, now you’re a 6. If you’re an 8, now you’re a 4. Your romantic value has been diminished. Your stock has plummeted on the Wall Street of Love.

Drugs limit your ability to meet the person of your dreams – to start the family you always wanted. It’s the most powerful argument against drug abuse. Everybody wants love, and they want to be in love – knowing that drugs will destroy this goal is the strongest deterrent I can think of.

What’s the Most Pathetic Love Song of All Time?

The Major is a romantic…it’s true. But everybody has a line, a place they won’t cross. Everybody has a moment they no longer feel love…when they only feel creepy.

For me, that moment occurs when I hear “Always a Woman” by Billy Joel.

She can kill with a smile, she can wound with her eyes
She can ruin your faith with her casual lies

She sounds like a crazy bitch. I say run…

And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child, but she’s always a woman to me

Yes, she technically is a woman. That’s true. But you just implied that she was a crazy bitch, so why are interested in her?

She can lead you to love, she can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth, but she’ll never believe you

Ok, now it’s confirmed. The bitch is crazy.

And she’ll take what you give her, as long it’s free
Yeah, She steals like a thief, but she’s always a woman to me

Uh…ok. Do you have any self-esteem? Any pride? I’m thinking no at this point.

Ohhh…she takes care of herself
She can wait if she wants, she’s ahead of her time

No, Beethoven was ahead of his time. Einstein was ahead of his time. Some predatory bitch is not “ahead of her time.”

Ohhh…and she never gives out
And she never gives in, she just changes her mind

“She just changes her mind” sounds like a frightening prospect. I’m thinking of regret rape, or something to that effect.

And she’ll promise you more than the garden of Eden
Then she’ll carelessly cut you and laugh while you’re bleeding

Who can pass up that deal?

But she’ll bring out the best and the worst you can be
Blame it all on yourself ’cause she’s always a woman to me

Blame it on myself? I’m sorry, but I don’t have Stockholm syndrome.

Ohhh…she takes care of herself
She can wait if she wants, she’s ahead of her time
Ohhh…and she never gives out
And she never gives in, she just changes her mind

Repeating the chorus, just in case you were wondering if Billy Joel is sick. And yes, it appears so.

She’s frequently kind and she’s suddenly cruel
She can do as she pleases, she’s nobody’s fool

I’m picturing a woman who will end up alone with an apartment full of cats. And Cymbalta…plenty of Cymbalta.

And she can’t be convicted, she’s earned her degree
And the most she will do is throw shadows at you
But she’s always a woman to me

“She earned her degree”…from what? University of Menstruation?

Man, I feel sorry for Billy Joel. If he wrote this song from the bottom of his heart, then he’s clearly a beta-male pussy. And it’s little wonder that Christy Brinkley took a left turn on him. If I were a woman, I’d do the same.

There’s nothing attractive about a man without honor.

Read more: Billy Joel – Always A Woman Lyrics | MetroLyrics

3 Ways to Connect with People

Here are the three ways to connect with people—from worst to best:

3.) You Hate the Same Things

This is great during political season. You connect with people that you normally have nothing in common with. You might share a beer or coffee together, musing on the problems in the world. And you find out that you both hate Hillary Clinton, Donald Trump, Fidel Castro, etc. When you leave, you’ll have a renewed faith in humanity—you saw something in this person that was previously hidden to you. Now “they cool.”

But this is a weak connection. As the old saying goes, “Politics make strange bedfellows.” When the gestalt of the moment is gone, you’ll find yourself in the same place with this person—a relative stranger.

Be careful that you don’t overrate this type of connection.

2.) You Like the Same Things

Some people confuse this for love. You like baseball, she likes baseball. You like country music, she likes country music. You like sex, she likes sex. And on and on. These type of relationships become more common as we grow older, because our sphere of contact becomes smaller. We go fewer places. So people will “hook up” with one another at a place they both frequent, such as the gym – it’s mating through proximity.

This connection is ultimately flawed. Once the baseball game is over, or the concert lights have died down, then the ugly truth is revealed. And you’ll often find yourself at odds with this person. Their real nature is revealed, and you don’t like what you see – they turn out to be a liar, a thief, or a stubborn malcontent. What happened? Well, you were duped by the enjoyment of the moment, by the music of the evening. Your connection was momentary, influenced by external forces. The connection was missing an intrinsic glue at the fundamental level.

Be careful that you don’t overrate this type of connection.

1.) You Share the Same Values

This is the best connection; you both share a Weltanschauung on the world. Your understanding of integrity, respect and honor are similar. You operate from the fundamental framework of ideals, on what is best in principle. You both share similar understanding of the world.

Note that your values don’t need to be good—for every Bonnie, there’s a Clyde. For every Hitler, there’s an Eva Braun. There’s somebody out there for everyone. So you merely have to agree with the other person on a fundamental level. The hardware of your computers should be equal. The motors created in a similar factory.

This is the best type of connection – one that’s based on values.

All Game Leads to Alpha Frame

Tinder, Badoo, Ok Cupid, Plenty of Fish….you can have all these dating sites and meet thousands of women. You can have your “lifestyle game” on lockdown, wearing a fine suit and excellent shoes. You can be running a fantastic “clown game,” making a woman chuckle at your irreverent wit and comedic mannerisms. You can have “money game” where you impress her with a Ferrari that you just bought. All of these roads can lead to seduction.

But eventually, you’ll need to be an Alpha. You’ll need to exhibit self-confidence, a passion for life, and a desire to accomplish great things. You’ll eventually need to let her know that you’ve been anointed—that you carry the blessings of an all-mighty God. You’re living an amazing journey , a one-of-a-kind story. You have to believe these things about yourself…believe them in the depths of your soul.

Only then will she truly fall in love with you.